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Today’s Relationships Give Me Fulfillment

Why do relationships matter?

• Some of life’s greatest experience involve other people. In John Maxwell’s book The 17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork he writes about the Law of Significance and states that “one is too small to achieve greatness.” Leadership is not built upon the LONE RANGER or RAMBO mentality.
• You will enjoy life of you like people. The Scrooges of the world do not enjoy much of anything. When you love people you will always have a friend and have a barrel of fun.
• You will go further in life if people like you. Talent and education are not enough to succeed. You must have a sensitivity for people’s needs and a willingness to assist them in their achievements. Show yourself to be a likable person!
• People are any organizations most appreciable Asset. Any organization that succeeds does so because of the people. You live and die with the your people. The corporate motto of Fed-Ex says that we will put people first, then service, then profits!

There comes a time when we must INITIATE and make an INVESTMENT into relationship with others. There are four (4) facets to this:

1.Start placing a high value on people. Let’s get real – if you do not care for people you are unlikely to make building good relationships a priority in your life. Le Giblin stated that you cannot make other people feel important in your presence if you sincerely feel that he is a nobody!

2.Learn to understand people. In the book A Passion for Excellence, the authors state that the number one managerial productivity problem in America is that managers are out of touch with their people and their customers. If you want to build lasting relationships with people keep in mind these truths…

• People are insecure…give them confidence
• People want to feel special…compliment them
• People desire a better tomorrow…give them hope
• People need to be understood…listen to them
• People are selfish…speak to their needs
• People get emotionally low…encourage them
• People want to be associated with success…help them win

3.Give respect freely but expect to earn it from others. My father taught me to respect people because they in fact have value that should be respected. If we learned to treat others with respect, the world would in fact be a better place to live.

4.Commit yourself to adding value to others. Charles Spurgeon once stated that we should our name on people’s hearts and not on marble. John Maxwell suggests that the best way to do this is to…(1) look for ability in others (2) help others discover their ability and (3) help others develop their ability.

Every day I make the conscious effort to deposit goodwill into my relationships with others!

Here are five (5) practical steps…

• Put others FIRST – The Golden Rule comes to mind. It is so simple and yet profound to this day on how it impacts other people; “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!”
• Do not carry emotional baggage – there are few things that can weigh a person down as mush as emotional baggage from life’s hurts. Stop keeping score. Deal immediately with the hurts of life by getting it on the table quickly.
• Give time to your most valuable relationships – do not be a person that gives away your emotional energy on a first-come-first-served-basis. Keep your relationships prioritized.
• Serve other people gladly – Helen Keller declared that life is an exciting business and most exciting when lived with others. Adding value to others is the most rewarding thing that you can do in life.
• Express love and appreciation often – John Maxwell suggests the 101% principle. Find one thing in a person that you admire and give 100% encouragement for it.

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