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How can you have charisma? Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are making them feel good about you. Executive Pastor Dan Reiland

Most people think of charisma as something mystical and undefinable. Many believe that you are born with it. Charisma, plainly stated is the ability to draw people to you. Like other character traits, it can be developed. Here are four (4) key thoughts that will help to flesh this subject out.

LOVE LIFE

People enjoy leaders who enjoy life. Think of the people that you want to spend time with. How would you describe them? Grumpy? Bitter? Depressed? Of course not. Lovers of life are celebrators and not complainers! They are passionate about life. John Wesley stated; “When you set yourself on fire, people will come to watch you burn!”

PUT A 10 on EVERY PERSON’S HEAD

One of the best things that you can do to attract others to yourself is to expect the best of them. It helps others to think a bit more of themselves while at the same time it helps you. According to Jacques Wiesel in a survey of 100 self made millionaires found these successful people only saw the good in others. Benjamin Disraeli, two time Prime Minister of Israel stated, “The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal the other person’s riches.” If you truly appreciate others, encourage them and help them reach their potential.

GIVE PEOPLE HOPE

The famous French General Napoleon Bonaparte characterized leaders as “Dealers in hope!”

Bonaparte knew that hope is the greatest of all possessions. If you can be that person that bestows that gift on others, they will be attracted to and will become forever grateful.

SHARE YOURSELF

People love leaders who share themselves. As you lead others give yourself. Share wisdom, resources and special occasions. When it comes to charisma the bottom line is other mindedness. Leaders who think about others and their concerns before thinking of themselves exhibit charisma.

How would you rate yourself when it comes to charisma? Consider the following;

PRIDE – nobody wants to follow a leader who thinks he is better than everyone else.

INSECURITY – If you are uncomfortable with you are, others will be too.

MOODINESS – If people never know what to expect from you, they stop expecting anything.

PERFECTIONISM – People respect the desire for excellence, but dread totally unrealistic expectations.

Perle Mesta, the great Washington Hostess, was asked how she managed to get so many rich and famous people to attend her parties. “It is all in the greetings and good-byes. When they arrive she responded, “At last you are here.” When they were leaving, she responded, “I’m sorry that you have to leave so soon.”

Focusing on others, not yourself, is the essence of charisma!

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