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1.Spending too little time with the right people.

• Nothing is more ill-fitting than spending time with the wrong person.
• Spend time with people who make your life richer.
• The right people…
• Love me no matter what, despite my flaws, unconditionally
• Add value to me. They make me better.
• Continually grow. It makes me more determined to improve myself.
• Walk my journey with me. They know what’s important to me and we travel together.
• Are excited about life.
• Refuel me. They give me energy and inspire me.

Ask: Who’s sitting beside me? Are they the right person?

2. Not saying what you need to say.

• The regret is not saying what you want to say, it’s saying what you need to say.
• Ask: How do I need to use my voice?
• Gift voice: what I do well. We all have one. How do you know? It’s in an area where you have intuition and timing.
• Character voice: standing up for what I believe. Not allowing other people to decide for me.
• Experience voice: what I know and what I’ve learned.
• Heart voice: what I feel. This one can cause regret more than others. It’s important to let the people you love know what you feel and what they mean to you.
• Dream voice: where I’m going, my calling.
• Question Voice: what I don’t know or understand. Having the courage to ask for help. Gives me more growth and more joy than anything else.

3. Not taking action on things worthwhile.

• The secret to getting ahead is getting started.
• If you procrastinate, you’ll never have a shot at winning.

Being Action-Oriented:

• I rise early. If you’re not a good morning person, be a good night person; don’t let the day pass You.
• I prioritize my most important to-do’s and do them first.
• I remove distractions. Get in an environment or use your distraction-free time to get your most important things done.
• I set timelines. I block my time so the major tasks get done.
• I make visual and verbal commitments. Tell others what you plan to do so they can hold you accountable. You’ll be more accountable if you can see it or you say it.

Control your agenda so you can create margins for thinking and doing more than others can do.

• I control my agenda. You either keep your own calendar, set your own agenda or others will set it for you.
• I evaluate my calendar. I evaluate it based on my actions not intentions.
• I review my actions and I ask, am I making progress.

4. Not allowing others to control your destiny.

• “I cannot and will not recant anything…”—Martin Luther
• Average people want you to stay average.
• People cannot give what they do not have. If they aren’t fueling you, they have nothing to give and if you hang with them, you’ll run on empty too.
• You become like the five people you spend the most time with and the books you read.
• Emotionally dysfunctional people should not control you.
• Have the courage to speak up and take control of your life.

We all have regrets. The goal is not to revisit them. Don’t try to do them over. Start today taking steps in the right direction.

“The biggest difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do.”

“Where you are today is the product of what you’ve done yesterday.”

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Music: “Gratitude Mood” by David Arivett. You can learn more about his music by clicking on his name. THANKS DAVID!