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You cannot lead people if you need people. John Maxwell
There is a vast difference between conceding that change is inevitable and believing that change is essential. John Maxwell
Here are seven insights on shifting from Pleaser to Leader
Change your expectations toward leadership – Learn to separate what is best for you versus what is best for the organization by asking these three questions (1) What’s best for the organization? (2) What’s best for other people within the organization? (3) What’s best for me? The order of these questions are important. If you need people to like you you will probably not be able to lead them.
Value people as much as you value yourself
Work to establish expectations up front – Assumptions are never a good method of operation in the leadership world. It always leads to unfulfilled expectations and disappointment. Think on these five statements:
Up-front appreciation places value on the person and increases the value of our time together.
Up-front expectations increase the value of any meeting.
Up-front questions are the quickest way for people to understand one another and thereby increasing the value of our time together.
Up-front discussion influences the way and direction we lead others.
Up-front decisions increase the value of our time together.
Ask yourself the hard questions before any potential difficult conversation
When a tough conversation is needed, do it right – Here are a few tips…
- “Are you aware of………?”
- “I need you to help me understand the situation?
- “I heard you say………Am I hearing you correctly?”
- Try for common ground
- Arrive at an agreement on what is best for all parties involved
- If you cannot agree on the issue and solution, stay open for at least one more meeting
- Maintain a positive attitude
Understand the 25-50-25 Principle – 25% of people will support your efforts. you. 50% of people will be undecided. 25% of people will resist you.
Balance Care with Candor – Care without candor creates dysfunctional relationships. Candor without care creates distant relationships. Care balanced with candor creates developing relationships. Care and candor are life the two wings on a plane; you cannot fly with only one wing. They must work together!
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