BA - Fort Wayne Bible College
MAR - Trinity Evangelical Divinity
D.Min - Grace Theological Seminary
Birkman Certified Coach
John Maxwell Certified Team Member
Myers/Briggs Certified
FIRO-B Certified
TKI Certified
25 Years Executive Coaching
“If we are honest with ourselves, we’ll admit that the toughest person to
lead is ourselves.” John Maxwell
We don’t see ourselves as we see others. If you don’t look at yourself realistically, how will you understand where your personal difficulties lie?
We are harder on others than we are on ourselves. Do you let yourself off the hook after a difficult time?
LIVE IT
Learn Followership – Only a leader who has followed well knows how to lead others well.
Leaders who have not followed well, tend to be: (1) Prideful; (2) Unrealistic; (3) Rigid; (4) Autocratic.
Develop Self-Discipline How have you developed self-discipline?
Practice Patience. – When we are foolish, we want to conquer the world. When we are wise,
we want to conquer ourselves.
Seek Accountability – People who lead themselves well know a secret; they can’t trust
themselves. How do you define accountability for yourself? For others?
LEAD IT
How clearly do you see yourself?
Where do you need to grow?
How well do you take advise?
Ask five to ten friends, colleagues, and family members to evaluate you. Each of the following is worth the number beside it. Average the numbers together – 4 or below requires you to improve:
1. You don’t want advice.
2. You don’t object to advice.
3. You welcome advice.
4. You actively seek advice.
5. You often follow the advice given to you.
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Loneliness is not a positional issue; it is a personality issue. What types of persons tend to hold on to a positional level?
What kind of leader would everyone behind and the journey alone? ANSWER: a selfish one!
Lifting people to a NEW LEVEL is required for effective leadership. How does a leader lift people to a higher level?
LIVE IT
Understand that no one ever got to the top by going alone
When is the last time you ask for help?
In order for you to make it to the top, it is essential that you take others with you!
Taking others to the top with you is more rewarding than arriving alone! What are you willing to risk getting others to the top?
When leading a TEAM most of your time is not at the TOP! As a leader are you below, in between, or above your team?
LEAD IT
STATEMENT: As a leader who takes a relational approach you will never be lonely! Why or Why not?
As a leader you must realize the downsides to success and failure. Success can be dangerous. How do you respond to either success or failure?
Remember as a leader, you are in the people business. If you do not value others, how will you ever get to the top?
Understand the Law of Significance – Do you have employees or Teammates?Loneliness on the part of the leader is a choice. Do you choose to go it alone or with other people?
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What is your underlying desire in life – Self Fulfillment or Self Development?
Are your best efforts on making you feel good or making others successful?
Are you in bad business relationships or friendships? Make serious changes within the context of these relationships or consider new options
Are you a Go-Getter or GO-GIVER?
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Definition of CRISIS: A crisis is an intense time of difficulty requiring a decision that will be a turning point.
“All of the great leaders have had one characteristic in common: it was the willingness to confront unequivocally the major anxiety of their people in their time.” — John Kenneth Galbraith
There are two (2) key thoughts to cover in this Podcast
A Crisis Reveals What Is Inside of You•Choices make us – A crisis reveals us•Believe in yourself – You will become on the outside what you believe on the inside•Watch your attitude – During tough times, your attitude is what separates successful people from those who fail•It has been said that “Life asks a question of every leader that gauges their effectiveness and wisdom: ‘What have you been through?’” Show me your scars!
It Is Our Decisions and Not Our Conditions That Determines The Quality of Life•There are three (3) key decisions that you make prior to a crisis: Values, Mission, & Responsibility.•Courageous Decisions – What Must Be Done •Good Leaders make things happen in good times•Great Leaders make things happen in bad times•The Law of Countability suggests that Teammates Must Be Able To Count On Each Other. “People Can Usually Trace Their Success and Failures To the Relationships in Their Lives.”•Priority Decisions: What Must Be Done First•Peter Drucker stated once that first things are always first and second things are not at all.•Have faith in God for the things that you cannot control•Stay focused on these four (4) realities: By God’s Appointment; In His Keeping; Under His Training; For His Name.
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Stop thinking more work and start thinking what works
Stop thinking “Can I?” Start thinking “How can I”
Stop limiting yourself to one option. Start looking for several options
Stop doing what you have always done. Start doing what should be done for growth
Stop doing what is expected. Start doing more than expected
Stop doing important things occasionally. Start doing important things daily
LIVE IT
Measure Your Capacity
Your impact is a direct function of your capacity
There is nothing in your past that determines your future – Your capacity must grow
The limitations of your capacity are the difference between where you are and where you want to be
LEAD IT
Have you made the transition from “I can’t” or “Can I?” to How can I?
It is time to start doing some dreaming by asking ….
If I knew I could not fail, what would I attempt?
If I had no limitations, what would I do?
If money were not an issue, what would I be doing presently?
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Who should I follow? Consider these suggestions ….
Someone who has a worthy example to follow
Are they available and accessible?
Do they have proven success?
Do they possess wisdom?
Do they provide friendship and encouragement?
Are they making a difference in people’s lives?
LIVE IT
To Grow – Get A Coach! Here are some characteristics of a good Coach ….
Care for the people they coach
Observe their attitudes, behaviors, and performance
Communicates and gives feedback about your performance
Helps you improve your life and performance
LEAD IT
For real growth to occur in your life, find a coach.
Before you meet with this coach, have 5 good questions prepared in advance. Do not show up to your first meeting empty handed.
Have a list of areas that you would like to improve and/or grow into
Digital technology allows for long-distance coaching that is quite effective.
Shepherds Advantage provides Servant Leadership that helps people close the gap between where they are and where they want to be. Shepherds Advantage closes that gap by providing Leadership Development, Keynote Speaking, and Executive Coaching.
How do you cultivate curiosity? It comes from a desire to learn.
Have a beginner’s mindset – keep learning fresh and exciting
Make WHY your favorite word
Have conversations with other curious people
Learn something new everyday
Participate in the fruit of failure
LIVE IT
Make life an adventure
Do not place limits on your capacity
The cure for boredom is curiosity
LEAD IT
KEY QUESTIONS:
Do you believe that you can become curious?
Have you made WHY your favorite word?
Do you possess a beginner’s mindset?
Do you know other curious people?
Are you enjoying life?
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The hardest part of stealing second base is taking your foot off first base!
QUESTION: What will it take to get you to go to the next level of your life?
What do you need to give up to go to the next level?
What will you have to give up?
Not being willing to give up something is the key reason that people never reach their fullest potential
The truth about trade-off’s
Unsuccessful people make bad trade-off’s
Average people make few trade-off’s
Successful people make good trade-off’s
Trade-off’s will force us to make difficult personal changes
The loss of the trade-off is usually felt before the gain is achieved
Most trade-off’s can be made at any time – good health, education
Some trade-off’s only come once in life – pay attention to these opportunities!
LIVE IT
Start Trading Up
Financial security for potential tomorrow
Give up immediate gratification for personal growth
Be willing to give up the fast life for the good life
Willing to give up addition for multiplication
LEAD IT
Overcome growing pains
As important as it is to know what you are willing to give up, it is equally important to know what you are not willing to give up. Can you write out your non-negotiables? Do you know what your next level is? What will it cost you to get there?
Shepherds Advantage provides Servant Leadership that helps people close the gap between where they are and where they want to be. Shepherds Advantage closes that gap by providing Leadership Development, Keynote Speaking, and Executive Coaching.
Growth Stops When you Lose The Tension Between Where You Are and Where You Could Be!
LEARN IT
Mediocrity Is Not A Worthy Goal!
Here are your Warmup Stretches:
GOD’S gift to us: Potential. Our gift to Him: Develop It!
There are many times that life will stretch you – Prepare for it!
What needs stretched right now in your life?
LIVE IT
It Is Easy To Be Average!
Are you settling for status quo? Abraham Maslow stated If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy the rest of your life.
James Allen stated that you cannot travel within until you stand without.
Remember you are exactly where you should be given everything that you have done to get here.
It is never too late to become what you could have been.
Rabi Naham stated that if you won’t be better tomorrow than today, then what do you need tomorrow for?
LEAD IT
What areas of your life have you settled in and stopped stretching?
Can you define your potential? If not perhaps you need to seek out a coach to assist in the discovery of your potential.
Are you happy with just being average?Establish a balance between your potential and present place so that stretching is both possible and challenging.
Shepherds Advantage provides Servant Leadership that helps people close the gap between where they are and where they want to be. Shepherds Advantage closes that gap by providing Leadership Development, Keynote Speaking, and Executive Coaching.
We are now into Week #32 of our COVID journey. Pause for just a minute to realize what has happened in 2020. Who would have thought we all would be facing the circumstances of what this pandemic has done to our national way of living. Yet, here we are traveling through new territory – masks, social distancing, quarantined, work from home, partial use of our church buildings. WOW! What a change of life-style.
The national data at week 32 is telling an interesting story and enforcing what was already true pre-covid. So here is the current snapshot. Regarding church gathering physically or digitally here are the numbers:
52% want physical gathering
9% want digital only church
35% want a hybrid – both physical and digital gathering for church
When you look at these numbers we are clearly divided, almost equally (52% – 44%) on physical versus digital church. These numbers would have been unheard of pre-covid.
Here is where the data information is even more compelling when you consider the Millennials and Gen-Z’s.
37% want physical gathering
13% want digital only
40% want both digital and physical options
This represents a 53% to 37% leaning more in the direction of digital over physical. However, it is not until you dive deeper in understanding the Millennials and Gen-Z’s that the real narrative emerges.
Digital Babylon represents the world these generations have been raised in and influenced greatly. Of those 18-29 years old that have had a certain level of exposure to church are broke out into 4 categories.
Prodigals (Ex-Christians) 22% – Do not currently identify as Christian even though they once did identify.
Nomads (Unchurched) 30% – Those who identify as Christian but have not attended church in the past month.
Habitual Churchgoers 38% – Those who describe themselves as Christian and have attended church at least once in the last month.
Resilient Disciples 10% – Identify as Christian, attend church at least once monthly and engage with their church other than attendance at services; firmly believe the bible; committed to Jesus personally and believe he arose from the dead; express a desire for society to come to faith in Christ. (Faith For Exiles – David Kinnaman/Mark Matlock)
Keep in mind these categories are those who were either raised or had close contact with the church in their formattable years. Here are some KEY TAKE AWAYS.
•The tension between digital versus physical gathering exists because the 18-29-year old’s want personal engagement over being counted as a number for church attendance.
•This generation represents 72.1 million – this is the greatest mission the church has ever seen. This generation is shifting the narrative from just content and its presentation to relational connection.
•There is a shift from information over-load to personal engagement – human to human. It is almost as if we are moving away from information everywhere and easy everywhere to knowing and being know as a human being.
•“Native Content” creation is the newest challenge. Live-streaming physical facility content will not reach this generation. Native Content represents a conversational presentation that allows for a dialogue over a monologue.
This challenge is what energizes me and gets me up in the morning. We can pivot faster and more radically now than anytime in church history.
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